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OK so none of you probably care but i gotta get this out of my system before i start blowing up on people who really don't deserve it

I was recently in a relationship with a girl, hadn't met her yet but she lives about an hour and a half away. So i thought i had struck pure gold.

I told her i loved her and she the same to me

Then she turns around and tells me a week or two later that shes got feelings for this other girl that i know...

But she still wants to be friends! and she still 'Loves' me but in a friendly way >.>

Where have we heard that before guys? I've heard it from every other girl I've dated and guess how many I've talked to more than 2 or three times since then... 0

But anyways, so now shes told me shes confessed her love and now they are going out -_-

I'm happy for them i guess, i mean I'm not mad at either of them...

Is it too much to ask for me to have someone of my own? Every time i get involved with someone they end up leaving...

i had a girl for 4 years, RL in the flesh, i gave her my virginity and a promise ring and an engagement ring... And i think she hawked(pawned) my Class Ring... And then she turns around and leave me because "I didn't pay attention to her" I guess every waking moment i wasn't in class or with my family didn't count as enough AND "Because i didn't have money to do things with her" this one lol'ed me because i had lost my job because of a disagreement i had with a manager, and i was looking for another job, i filled out 2-10 applications a week, all she had to do was wait for one more month, maybe two...

But yeah that was less than a year ago, and shes now married and 6 months pregnant with a little girl that i hope to god is raised well...

Every subsequent girl after than i met online... because meeting people is so hard to do outside of school, and i graduated last year, donno about college yet

Every time the girl has left me for some stupid reason, and sometimes the reason is halfway decent but it still hurts... Just like this last one, i have to put on a stone face when i talk to her as not to get upset and start doing stupid stuff...

I've been trying for the last year to figure out what is wrong with me... Why cant i hold a relationship?

I love how always a girl will say to me:
"Oh you like the perfect guy! i wish i had someone like you"
So ill reply
"Are you single?"
and i always get
"Yes, but <insert lame excuse here>"

I donno... If you read all this i thank you and I'm gonna go lie down now, and try to get some sleep in the 4 hours before work

Feel free to post exactly whatever you feel nessicary...
Flame me, beat me, burn me, not like i haven't felt it before

"Only in my dreams can i truly rest in peace, for in the morn, it all falls to pieces... again"

BHustonM · Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 2:35 pm Post subject:

OK OK so you have girl/relationship problems... Dont beat yourself up about it and, dude, quit looking online (unless you do the one with a personality profile, but even then i wouldnt do it).

You need to take a breather and sit back and enjoy you and whet you like to do. Make friends and hang out with them. Youre out of HS where you done see ppl your own age all the time. Take a moment to grow up and evaluate what you want in a girl/wife/relationship. I say "grow up" in the nicest way possible because your head is still in HS where everyone felt like they need a bf/gf. I teach school so I see it day in and day out. I hear all about who is dating who and who is sleeping with who (which is sad) and all the drama. You are out of that environment. For the majority of college kids, life is about having fun and enjoying yourself. There are a select few that keep that HS mentality... they usually get into the Greek clubs and buy friends. Hang out, be friends, chill with other people. There is no need to have a gf or to be dating. Also, do the group thing. Find a group of friends and hang out with them. Maybe in that group something will come about.

But mainly... Quit looking for a gf! Dont let it consume you and dont take it too personal when ppl dont want to date. Just chill out and be cool. Oh and quit giving valuables away.. like rings and such. You seem to be trying to buy their love. The only thing you should give them in the first year is time and good conversation. If you cant have a decent conversation with them, then break it off. Relationships arent all about fun and sex. If it is, then it wont last very long.

If youre wondering... Im 27, married with kids. I have a little knowledge in this area. Ive been where you are and all I needed to do was readjust my priorities. I had fun with friends, played pool with a buddy, and did what I wanted to do. I found a chick who I enjoyed talking to and that was cool. We were friends for three months before we even considered dating exclusively. That was 9 years ago (Holy Crap!). We dated for a year and a half and then were engaged for a year and a half. It wasnt love at first sight and I slowly opened up to her. I didnt dump alot of baggage on her all at once and she did the same.

Dude, have fun with life

BYD · Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 2:43 pm Post subject:

It may not be much comfort, but at least every unsuccessful relationship makes you better able to understand what kind of mate you are best suited for and what kind of mate is best suited to you.

I dated a girl for 3 1/2 years in college and thought that I would marry her. When we broke up, I was bitter and I calculated the money that I had "wasted" dating her. I realized that I could have bought and insured a brand new Porsche if I had never dated her. After some time had passed, I realized that she really helped me learn more specifically what attributes I wanted in my wife. This informtion was much more valuable than any car.

There are lots of great girls/women out there. It just takes a little time to find one that agrees with you as to what makes a good relationship.

Payquage · Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 9:53 pm Post subject:

The_Blob · Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2007 4:59 am Post subject:

Here's some advice...don't get married... ever.

Marriage is a business deal in this country, pure & simple.

Hell, if you absolutely HAVE TO, find some beahtch that you simply cannot stand, walk up to her, and give her a house... avoid years of misery that'll have the SAME result.

Hookers are cheaper.

Jormengrund · Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2007 8:12 pm Post subject:

At this point in your life, you may be thinking that you need to find someone, and settle down.

However, if you're feeling that need, invest your cash, buy a home, furnish it, get situated, and prove to yourself and everyone else that you can take care of yourself first before you need to worry about taking care of another.

My biggest downfall was trying to impress someone into liking me, and ended up becoming a very messy divorce.

Don't go searching for the relationship. The best relationships usually come to you when you stop looking. I am now happily married with three children to the last person I think I would have been looking for. However, we meet in so many different ways that it's sometimes scary to think there's another person on this planet that thinks like I do!

Anyway, just let life happen, don't force the issue, and let things continue on.

Eventually, when it is the right time, something will happen, and you'll get your answers.

- Life's like that -

slippy · Posted: Sat May 05, 2007 5:24 pm Post subject:

Me, I'd just like to say this.

Life can be great. Enjoy.
Life can suck. Deal.